Abuse of the System

This is how it really is...  My wife had been doing all the things that were my 'buttons to push" before she decided to try and make a clean break from me.  I love being a dad.  It's the best and she knows I feel that way and am passionate about it.  She also knew I was trying to repair us, and our marriage. So she decided to tell me one night she has a boyfriend and it all just goes down from there. Sticking up for him over me, belittling me in front of him (Why can't you be a real man?  Let your balls drop. I don't know what I ever saw in you to marry you in the first place!)  Those are texts from her as well. 

I gave my wife the mothers day she asked for.  Do you know what I got for Fathers Day?  I gave her a 12 and a half hour opportunity to travel one whole mile so I could see the kids, since I'm not welcome there by her parents.  I didn't see them at all.  Her boyfriend was over her house for two hours the same day.  This is not an isolated incident.  The 4th of July weekend was a four day weekend, and I saw the kids for 2 hours, total.  I was turned down from seeing them at all over half the time.  Would that make you upset?  It did me too and I asked her IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE EVEN, to please tone it down for a few days.  I needed a break. So instead she stepped it up with the flaunting of the special relationship with her friend and the zero worth of ours.  She took out a protective order.  She couldn't get me to hurt anyone, even the boyfriend, because I was focused on just wanting to do as I said earlier, so she used harassment as the reason for the order... this coming from the woman who has been overtly using the kids to make my life more difficult and has been known to call me 30 times in a few hours when I have asked her not to call.

During this time I went to my doctor for some type of help, citing her emotional abuse of me. He prescribes medicine for my anxiety and other things and he literally gave me valium because I spent the entire time shaking and crying which, if she knew, would probably make her feel a sense of accomplishment. 

I received a phone call the other day saying my dad was laying on the driveway, he was probably having a stroke or another heart attack and whether he would make it or not was questionable.  I had a protective order on me but I thought, this is family and serious, she wouldn't make an issue of this.  Text were sent to her (I am not saying by who as you will learn why in a second) to see my kids, to bring them down, that every concern she had, had already been cleared by my doctor, etc.  Did I see my children?  No, instead I had 5 police men come to my door and arrest me on 8 counts of breaking a protective order (my father's life was up in the air) which are third degree felonies.  "Thanks there good buddy!" my heart sang. That's the right thing to do, and she sure isn't using the system... at all.  She is the victim.  Right...

Someday I will most likely be reduced to things like she is doing, as that is where the unceasing behavior leads to, for sure. Every time. She thinks that will work in her favor, and it might, short term.  But what about the KIDS?  What she is doing is not right.  She can say I'm this or that, but I have been more than reasonable with her, trying to find a peaceful way through this but up to now, she won't have any of it. This new boy has no idea what is in store for him and if he thinks he is special because she left the bonds of our marriage to be with him, someone needs to enlighten this guy. He is one of MANY and I can back that up with the kind of evidence that would get you convicted in court.

I'm sure it will at some point come out here since nothing seems to be sacred anymore from the other side of town.

That's all.