Originally posted in April.
This is the last email I sent my wife. I never did get a response, however at sentencing last week for violating the protective order (see previous posts regarding what I did to help put it in perspective) my attorney told me she was complaining that I was using the kids as hostages in the divorce. Then everybody had a good chuckle, as you have to have people in order to hold them hostage and she has kept them from me for close to a year with a protective order. (Again, see previous post for the details.)
Here is the email I sent. I thought I was reasonable. I can promise I was sincere.
April 13, 2017
Hello Jamie,
With birthdays coming up, I am giving one last go of this. For the healthy development of our children and to lay aside personal differences for something bigger than us, I am hoping you will be willing to take one last look at what I have been communicating with you about child visitation. In return I am offering new things to you as well.
You and I know that the courts prefer both parents to be involved in the children's lives. It would only take you giving the nod of approval and that would allow the children's lives to find some sort of balance that has been missing.
By working together with visitation now, I am willing to offer you some unprecedented support from me. I’ll do just about anything that helps you. I will go to the courthouse today and sign that divorce or take the next available class. Just name it. Let me be a dad who can visit with the kids in an environment they can enjoy. I can support you in any endeavor or relationship you want to pursue... if you'll just let me be a dad.
The girls birthdays are approaching as well as my own and while there is little chance of them seeing me on mine, there is a chance to have their dad around at some point for theirs, even if just for a few moments. That would mean more to them than anything anyone could buy.
I want you to be happy. I want you to pursue the things you want to as this can only lead to our children having a more fulfilling life of their own. If there is something you need to see from me so that I can visit with the kids in a healthy and nurturing environment, let me know what it is so that I can provide you with it. Every piece of medical documentation I have gathered supports the assertion that I am good to go around my own kids and anyone else for that matter.
I feel this is a big deal and a big moment and opportunity. I feel that way because we can both positively affect the children in ways that would benefit them far greater than anything else we could do. I am offering to you the support and the understanding that I know you would want and I want to give it to you. I'm asking for only a fraction of it in return.
I hope your day goes well.
Jonathan
And that's all the news that's fit to print.
